Who Is Head Of Your House?

Is it “Your House” You Live in or “Your Dog’s” House?

Dog dominance is a real problem, even if it doesn’t immediately manifest in aggressive behavior, and this happens time and time again around the world. Usually, by owners who are trying to do their best for their pet, and really love him.dog house design

That may seem like a strange question, but in many households, the dog believes that he is the master of the home. What’s more – the humans actually let him get away with it!

There are various problems with allowing a dog to be the head. One of the saddest is that many of the people that allow the dog to take over because they feel that they are being kind to the dog – allowing it the freedom of the home to do whatever he wants. They feel they are being a good owner, and looking after their pet. But, you are actually causing your dog a lot of mental distress and anxiety. You haven’t given him ‘freedom’, what you have given him is ‘responsibility’ – beyond what he is able to deal with.

You see the head of the ‘pack’ is the one who has overall responsibility for the whole family and their survival. The leader has to:

  1. Find and secure safe shelter for everyone from elements and attackers.
  2. Provide food for everyone
  3. Protect the pack against all intruders
  4. Fight off any challenges for leadership from outside, or from within the pack.
  5. Procreate, to maintain the lineage of the pack – make puppies fro the pack’s survival.

And more.

So, you see how a family dog cannot do all that in a human home. But he or she will try to do it if there isn’t an obvious leader ‘in their eyes’. A dog will always expect to find a leader in any group living together. It doesn’t matter if it is a family of dogs, humans or mixture, the dog knows that there should be a pack leader or head of the family.

There is no democracy or family meetings in the dog’s mind. All the members of the group have their job – just like we do in the workplace. And, everyone will follow the directions of the pack leader. Each member of the group needs the others to do their job properly, otherwise, the group fails as a whole. Rudyard Kipling once wrote: “And the strength of the pack is the wolf, And the strength of the wolf is the pack” There always has to be a pack leader in your dog’s mind.

Are You the Top Dog, Or is it Your Dog?

dog bed 2

The problem is, that if a dog doesn’t see who the leader is, then ‘he’ will take responsibility for the position. And this is how your dog becomes the head of the household.

Here lies the problem…

The role of leader is very demanding, it’s not just a title of a bossy ‘person’, but a real job with demands and responsibilities. Your dog knows this, but the job is far too much for a dog to do in a human world.

It would be like putting me as chief surgeon in a brain surgery department – I have absolutely no way of doing it and it would be extremely stressful the entire time. I would be trying to do the job to the best of my abilities, but, my abilities in this area stop at – “Do you have a headache? – Take some painkillers.” I know about dogs – not brain surgery, I have no idea how to do that job. And neither does your dog have any idea how to be the head of your household.

So, What Do You Do?

dog on rug

Easy, you actively, and obviously take on the responsibly of pack leader/head of the house yourself.

The funny thing is, that it doesn’t actually have to be the ‘true’ head of the family in human terms to be the ‘pack leader’ as far as the dog is concerned. You see, a dog is looking for different things in a pack leader than we do as a ‘head of the family’. That’s why this problem arose in the first place. The true head of the family may be a parent. But, it is actually quite possible for a responsible child to look like the pack leader, as far as the dog is concerned. Because your dog looks for different things in a pack leader than you do.

As long as your dog sees that he is not the boss and that there is obviously at least one person above him then that is good. Though, It is actually much better than all the humans in the family can be seen as being above the dog in ranking. It is often easier to start with one person – the one who takes enough interest to read about dog care and training is a great start.

There are lots of examples of what you can do to become, develop and maintain the status of the ‘pack leader’.

PlayTime Rules

dog playing

Playing with his dog in the house, a pack leader is the one who starts any playtime and controls the ‘joint’ toys. By that I mean any toy that takes 2, to play i.e. a throwing toy. Should one of your dogs decide to try and force you to start playing, then do not play, avoid all eye contact, and deliberately and very obviously, immediately put space between yourself and the dog. If the dog were to jump up, again avoid eye contact, immediately remove the dog, and again put space between the two of you.

This may seem a little unfair if you have never done anything like this before. But remember you have a perfect right as the boss not to be disturbed when you don’t want to be, or forced to do anything by a subordinate (your dog is supposed to be subordinate – remember what this article is about). If you were the owner of a big company, would you be happy for a low down employee to try to force you to run the company, the way he thinks suits ‘him’ best? So, don’t let your dog do it, you know best – not him.

If the dog insists in perusing you and pressurizing you, he has very little respect for you, and that just isn’t right. You take good care of him, it’s time he learned a little respect for you. If this is the first time you have done this sort of thing, your dog may keep at this for some time. But, you react the same way every time:

  1. No eye contact
  2. Remove the dog from physical contact
  3. Put space between you and the dog – immediately and deliberately.
  4. Don’t get emotional about this.

It isn’t an emotional issue as far as your dog is concerned, but a power issue. Just keep a steady commanding attitude. Don’t shout, lose your temper, get upset or even feel sorry for your dog.

If your dog keeps a toy in his mouth when doing this, you can maybe remove the toy from the dog and put it away out of reach as well. (Be careful not to get hurt yourself). Use some discretion with your dogs. This can take time with some dogs, and others learn quickly. But you should be calm, balanced and a little bit aloof (with an attitude of superiority) when you do this. I don’t mean you to be like a dominant tyrant, but be sure to be seen as the boss with quiet confidence.

Remember, it is not that you should never play with your dog, just that it should be ‘you’ that starts the playtime. And that you start it when you want, and not when your dog is trying to get you to play. Once your dog ‘learns’ this. It is possible that he will still ‘chance his luck’ every now and again. Don’t fall for it, just go through the same procedure each time.

If you have 2 or more dogs and they play among themselves, this is fine. You don’t need to start that playtime, just any playtime that involves you.

There are lots of other things you can and should do to become the pack leader. This is just one area of becoming the dog’s acknowledged leader. Becoming the head of the house is actually a very important part of having a dog live with you in peace. Get that right, and so many other issues will be simple to deal with, as a dog will obey its leader. It’s in his nature to do that.

Remember, you are not being demeaning or cruel to your dog doing this. You are actually being kind as you take on the responsibility yourself, and save your dog the stress – It really is best for your dog.

Sharing Is Caring 🙂

Is you or your dog the head of your house?

About the Author Andy

When not writing about himself in the third person, Andy spends many an hour walking his mischievous, mixed breed rescue Mr Wox, aka Soxy Woxy. A leading authority on all dog-related topics, Andy is highly respected, deeply appreciated and widely admired.

follow me on:

Leave a Comment:

15 comments
gamefly free trial says May 20, 2019

Yes! Finally someone writes about gamefly free trial.

Reply
minecraft download says May 17, 2019

I do not even know how I ended up here, but I thought this post was good.
I do not know who you are but certainly you are going to a famous blogger
if you are not already 😉 Cheers!

Reply
minecraft free says May 17, 2019

Excellent post. I am going through many of these issues as well..

Reply
minecraft free says May 16, 2019

Incredible! This blog looks exactly like my old one! It’s on a completely
different topic but it has pretty much the same layout and design. Outstanding
choice of colors!

Reply
minecraft download free pc says May 15, 2019

Amazing! This blog looks just like my old one! It’s on a entirely
different subject but it has pretty much the same page layout and design. Outstanding choice of colors!

Reply
minecraft free says May 13, 2019

Hello my loved one! I want to say that this post is awesome, nice written and come
with almost all important infos. I would like to look extra posts like this .

Reply
g says May 13, 2019

Wow, this piece of writing is pleasant, my sister is analyzing these things,
thus I am going to tell her.

Reply
g says May 13, 2019

Pretty! This has been a really wonderful article.
Thank you for providing this information.

Reply
g says May 12, 2019

I got this web page from my pal who informed me about this site and at the moment this time I am browsing this web
page and reading very informative content at this time.

Reply
download minecraft pc says May 11, 2019

Genuinely when someone doesn’t understand after that its up to other people that they will help,
so here it takes place.

Reply
g says May 11, 2019

You ought to be a part of a contest for one of the highest quality sites on the web.
I am going to highly recommend this site!

Reply
minecraft free download says May 7, 2019

I think that everything said made a ton of sense. However, consider this, what if you typed a catchier title?
I mean, I don’t wish to tell you how to run your
blog, however what if you added a post title that grabbed people’s attention? I mean Who Is Head Of Your House?
– TufToys.com– Big & Tough, Durable Dog Toys For Aggressive Chewing Dogs is kinda vanilla.
You could peek at Yahoo’s front page and note how they create news headlines
to grab people interested. You might try adding
a video or a picture or two to grab people excited about what you’ve got to say.
Just my opinion, it would make your posts a little bit more interesting.

Reply
free minecraft says May 6, 2019

Very nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wished to say that I have truly
enjoyed surfing around your blog posts. In any case I will
be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!

Reply
gamefly says May 3, 2019

hi!,I love your writing so a lot! proportion we keep up a correspondence
extra about your article on AOL? I require an expert on this area to resolve my
problem. Maybe that is you! Taking a look ahead to see you.

Reply
gamefly free trial says May 3, 2019

Wow, awesome weblog format! How lengthy have you ever been blogging for?
you make running a blog look easy. The entire look of your site is
wonderful, as smartly as the content!

Reply
Add Your Reply